5 things you shouldn’t believe

1. “I’m so not ready for that [insert task here]”

I’m pretty sure the world is divided into two sets of people: people who say this and people who hate the people who say this. Unfortunately for me, I fall into the former category. If you belong to the latter, when someone says “I’m so not ready for _____”, simply allow it to translate to “I’m so nervous” in your mind. Not all of us have the confidence to say “I will ace this thing!” in response to that “Are you ready?” question… especially if there’s even a 1% chance we could fail.

2. “You’re still young”

You hear this saying a lot from those of the older generation in relation to life’s milestones. Usually it’s after you’ve given an unsatisfactory answer to one of their probing questions. Unfortunately, when they say “you’re still young”, what they mean is “you’re not young anymore… you should really get your shit together.” And it’s only a matter of time before they start telling you that.

3. “Just kidding!”

Because the best jokes need to be suffixed with “just so you know, this was a joke. Laugh please.” Situations where “just kidding” is used are usually situations where at least a small glimmer of truth was in what was just said, but the voice-er doesn’t want to offend you. Or they do, but they don’t want to be caught by others doing it.

4. “Let’s keep in touch”

How many times have we said this with absolutely no intention of keeping in touch with that person? “Let’s keep in touch” has become the polite way of saying “you’re slightly interesting, but not enough for me to expend effort in building a relationship with” or “you’re not interesting at all. Let me politely get you to leave.” At least there’s a socially acceptable way to dismiss people from your life.

5. “No rush” / “Take your time”

Nothing rushes me more than when someone says “take your time”, because they just reminded me that I am taking up their time in waiting on me. I feel like I was daydreaming while paying for my items at the grocery store, and someone just tapped me on the shoulder and showed me that there was a line full of people behind me. I’ve caught myself being on the giving end of such a line – and if the person then takes more than a few days in getting the item to me, I get legitimately pissed off. I’m trying to get into a better habit of giving others a legitimate timeline instead of simply “no rush” or “take your time” – “could you get this back to me within a week?” means practically the same thing and doesn’t take a dictionary that doesn’t exist to translate.

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dear future me

Blogging 101 Day 4: publish a post you’d like your ideal audience member to read, and include a new-to-you element in it

Dear Future Me,

How’s… whatever you’re up to? Hope you have time for a quick chat. Actually, even if you don’t have time, buckle down sister, you’re going to have to read through this now that you’ve seen it.

What ARE you up to? Are you still doing audit, or are you pursuing some other profession now? Wherever you are, I hope you’ve remembered not to let work take over your entire life. You’re someone that gets easily obsessed, but make sure you’re staying obsessed over the right, healthy things. If you ever lose your way, just remember this: corporations aren’t people.

Are you still reading books? Your brother just started on the Harry Potter and Divergent series. How is your brother? Is he still swimming?

Are you still doing Blogilates? Right now, you’re obsessed with her. You’re even considering becoming certified. Did that end up happening, or have you found some other form of fitness?

What are your current celebrity obsessions? Are Emily Blunt and John Krasinski still together? You’ve been obsessively watching their interviews for about a week now, and they still seem like the most adorable couple ever. I hope they’re still together by the time you’re reading this… don’t tell me if they’ve broken up (although I guess you can’t).

There are some things you’ve realized about yourself lately, and I thought I’d remind you about them in case you forget again:

Think before you speak. Remember that app, Episode, that you were so engrossed in you had to delete it after a month because it was taking over your life? You always put so much thought into every decision you made… you should be doing that in real life too. Think about the consequences of every action you make, everything you say… and for the love of god, stop pushing people away by telling them the worst things about yourself just because you’re afraid. You do not need to “initiate” every friend by revealing a bundle of crazy – if they need to know, they’ll find out at the right time.

It’s OK to be comfortable and not want to change. Being static is not a bad thing – when you feel yourself stalling, it’s not a sign to surge forward to fulfill people’s unmet expectations. I don’t know about you reading this now, but as I’m writing this, you still find yourself evaluating yourself after every single meeting, even if it’s just a gathering of friends. Stop it. You don’t need to be the “bubbly” friend, or the “mature” friend -being yourself is good enough. (Even if it isn’t, no one will tell you, and you can rest easy in blissful oblivion.)

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Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, I hope you’re doing well. Stay strong, stay positive, stay happy. Muah.